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Feeling kinda restless this morning about a post of Eben Pagan’s … “How to Become Wealthy Right Now”
He talks about giving value freely and being wealthy in lots of ways other than material. Not that I don’t believe in all that – because I do of course — see my problem has always been when to draw a line and say – “okay I value me and my time enough to stop giving everything away“.
Somehow I totally missed the “take care of you first so that you may take better care of others” boat. I’ve started to get a clue the last couple of years and am getting better at defining boundaries … for sure a work in progress though.
I think this is an easy trap for Moms to fall into and it leaves us especially vulnerable to the wills of those who don’t mean as well for us in return. I’ve seen it time and again – women who give and give and give some more only to be left high and dry in their own moments of need.
Somehow failing to attract people who also are also givers.
For a long time, I wondered – kind of in a back corner of my mind – why this is and something about Eben’s post just stuck a clear chord.
What if that’s not the whole story …
What if giving for giving’s sake – and appreciating that awesome feeling that goes along with it – isn’t enough.
What if it’s just 1/2 of the puzzle.
See what I realized so clearly this morning is that we also have to be able to receive easily and joyfully without expectation (feelings of obligation, needing to reciprocate) so that others may feel that giving feeling too. Givers can only give if someone’s receiving – makes sense right?
I’ve seen this work in my own life with my kids in particular – they are awesome givers and they also receive very easily too. It’s me who has more trouble with the receiving.
Bottom line?
I believe if we aren’t attracting givers it’s because we aren’t being good receivers.
Can it be just that simple?
I’m thinkin’ so.
Thanks Eben for your post – very very cool.
Andrea
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Interesting concept – and probably pretty on target. Now to do some soul searching…
Great post, kinda makes me feel guilty because I cannot say that I have been so giving, but I guess its never too late to change.
Hi Kathleen –
Soul searched? – grins (sorry so late – gotta love a blog post for longevity!)
Andrea
Hey Santella –
Don’t feel guilty – lol …. it’s a freakin’ balancing act!! And awareness is like 98% of the battle, yeah?
Appreciate you
Andrea
(who totally wished there was a blog on your url to read/ comment back – GREAT domain name! )